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Thursday, March 27, 2014
Some of the Joys
Some of the joys of being a mom are getting cute pics and videos on camera! Here are some recent videos and pictures of Baby Rae! :) She does keep us entertained! :)
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Trial and Error
I wish that all babies were born with a handbook. OR with the ability to talk. One of my friends and I always joke about how we'll like our children when they can talk, so they can just tell us what they need....how true that is sometimes.
As soon as I figure Raelyn out, and I got her on a schedule, she changes it. Its like she knows. Like she loves to drive me crazy! :) So, I got to thinking, what it would be like if babies COULD come out talking, or came with a handbook.
-We would know what they liked and didn't like. Do you even like walking around the park, or does it bore you death?
-We would know how they prefer their formula. "Shaken not stirred, please mom."
-What time THEY would prefer to go to sleep, and in what manner. "Please don't rock so fast, mom."
-We would know what they are randomly screaming about. Do you have an itch? Are you cold? Are you in pain? Do you just want your daddy? Do you have gas? Do you hate the outfit you're wearing?
One thing works one day, but doesn't the next. Why?
Raising a baby is just trial and error. Which would be fine, but once you figure it out, they change it. You also can try other people's advice because it worked for them, but somehow that one thing never seems to work for you.
My husband and I have had this conversation too often...
"what does she want?"
"I don't know."
"Let's try this"
"Sounds good"
"Its not working"
"Well, it worked yesterday."
"Let's try this."
"Okay"
I guess trial and error is the way to learn to be a parent. I'm just glad babies aren't really fragile. They somehow take all the stuff we as parents throw at them. Maybe its a good thing they don't talk, or Raelyn would always ask me, "mom, what are you doing?"
Happy Moment:
Raelyn has let me rock her to sleep like 3 times this week. She usually doesn't go down unless she's kicking and screaming. This week she just looked up at me until she closed her eyes and fell asleep. It was a great feeling. Like I'm actually getting somewhere as a mom.
As soon as I figure Raelyn out, and I got her on a schedule, she changes it. Its like she knows. Like she loves to drive me crazy! :) So, I got to thinking, what it would be like if babies COULD come out talking, or came with a handbook.
-We would know what they liked and didn't like. Do you even like walking around the park, or does it bore you death?
-We would know how they prefer their formula. "Shaken not stirred, please mom."
-What time THEY would prefer to go to sleep, and in what manner. "Please don't rock so fast, mom."
-We would know what they are randomly screaming about. Do you have an itch? Are you cold? Are you in pain? Do you just want your daddy? Do you have gas? Do you hate the outfit you're wearing?
One thing works one day, but doesn't the next. Why?
Raising a baby is just trial and error. Which would be fine, but once you figure it out, they change it. You also can try other people's advice because it worked for them, but somehow that one thing never seems to work for you.
My husband and I have had this conversation too often...
"what does she want?"
"I don't know."
"Let's try this"
"Sounds good"
"Its not working"
"Well, it worked yesterday."
"Let's try this."
"Okay"
I guess trial and error is the way to learn to be a parent. I'm just glad babies aren't really fragile. They somehow take all the stuff we as parents throw at them. Maybe its a good thing they don't talk, or Raelyn would always ask me, "mom, what are you doing?"
Happy Moment:
Raelyn has let me rock her to sleep like 3 times this week. She usually doesn't go down unless she's kicking and screaming. This week she just looked up at me until she closed her eyes and fell asleep. It was a great feeling. Like I'm actually getting somewhere as a mom.
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
Isolation: Cabin Fever
Sorry I haven't written in a while, somehow when you have a baby days get busy and hectic! :)
One of the hardest things that I am struggling with right now, and have struggled with since Raelyn's birth is isolation. I'm hoping other mom's can relate because I kinda wanted to do more of an open discussion for this blog, and hear from other moms and get their advice.
Since Steven is still in school, and works part-time, there are days that I'm home all day by myself and Steven comes home in time to put Raelyn to bed. I try to hang out with my other mommy friends, or make plans so that I'm not alone all week. Sadly, everyday can't be filled, so it gets lonely, and I sometimes feel isolated from the world.
Some days it's just me and my thoughts. I mean, I talk to my little girl, but she can't talk back. I usually end up narrating my whole day to her. When you are with your own thoughts all day, it can be deadly. Sometimes I end up beating myself up all day about what I have an haven't accomplished.
I didn't realize that this was one of my issues until recently. One day I felt like I had a good productive day. I cleaned the whole house, did several loads of laundry, kept my daughter (and me) alive, and worked out. On top of that, Raelyn was happy. However, at the end of the day I felt kinda sad and lonely. I realized that I had been alone all day and I didn't like it. It gets frustrating realizing that this could very well be my life for a while, and some days I just don't enjoy it. Most of these days, I find, are days that I'm all alone for more than 60% of the day. Since I only have one child, maybe it will be different later when I have multiple children and they are older?????
One of the things that is hard about being a full-time mom is learning how to be alone and stay sane, and learning to be at home for several hours at a time. It's just another one of those adjustments to life that I've had to make, that most mom's have had to make.
I'm still trying to figure out ways to not get down or unhappy on days that I have nothing on the calendar and Steven's not home all day. I definitely pray a lot on these days because I know the Lord will always listen to my endless thoughts and continuous rants.
Since I'm still working on this and figuring it out, if anyone has ideas, advice, or encouragement about this topic, please share!
On a happier note:
Today two of my mom friends came over, and we talked for FOUR hours. It was a blast. We were able to get a lot of our thoughts out, and discuss current events of today. It's days like this that make me realize how blest I am, and how grateful I am for my friends and family in my life who give me their love and support!
One of the hardest things that I am struggling with right now, and have struggled with since Raelyn's birth is isolation. I'm hoping other mom's can relate because I kinda wanted to do more of an open discussion for this blog, and hear from other moms and get their advice.
Since Steven is still in school, and works part-time, there are days that I'm home all day by myself and Steven comes home in time to put Raelyn to bed. I try to hang out with my other mommy friends, or make plans so that I'm not alone all week. Sadly, everyday can't be filled, so it gets lonely, and I sometimes feel isolated from the world.
Some days it's just me and my thoughts. I mean, I talk to my little girl, but she can't talk back. I usually end up narrating my whole day to her. When you are with your own thoughts all day, it can be deadly. Sometimes I end up beating myself up all day about what I have an haven't accomplished.
I didn't realize that this was one of my issues until recently. One day I felt like I had a good productive day. I cleaned the whole house, did several loads of laundry, kept my daughter (and me) alive, and worked out. On top of that, Raelyn was happy. However, at the end of the day I felt kinda sad and lonely. I realized that I had been alone all day and I didn't like it. It gets frustrating realizing that this could very well be my life for a while, and some days I just don't enjoy it. Most of these days, I find, are days that I'm all alone for more than 60% of the day. Since I only have one child, maybe it will be different later when I have multiple children and they are older?????
One of the things that is hard about being a full-time mom is learning how to be alone and stay sane, and learning to be at home for several hours at a time. It's just another one of those adjustments to life that I've had to make, that most mom's have had to make.
I'm still trying to figure out ways to not get down or unhappy on days that I have nothing on the calendar and Steven's not home all day. I definitely pray a lot on these days because I know the Lord will always listen to my endless thoughts and continuous rants.
Since I'm still working on this and figuring it out, if anyone has ideas, advice, or encouragement about this topic, please share!
On a happier note:
Today two of my mom friends came over, and we talked for FOUR hours. It was a blast. We were able to get a lot of our thoughts out, and discuss current events of today. It's days like this that make me realize how blest I am, and how grateful I am for my friends and family in my life who give me their love and support!
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